Stay at Home Parents

I have thought all year about the Living Hero Concept. Who are my Living Heros. The word "Hero" puts a serious amount of pressure on someone and there are alot of high profile people you could choose from.

For me, the number One Living Hero, has to be the parents that choose to stay home with their children as opposed to using a daycare.

Now, before alot of folks get defensive, I know some people are in situations where they have no choice and I am no hero myself, I worked out of the house and part time when my son was born and did that for over 4 years, my husband and I have now switched roles.

But, thats not what I am talking about. I know a few young families where they have decided to have one of them stay home full time while the other works. They are not the Norm.

I often think times must have been simpler back in the 50's. You got married, husband worked, had some kids, the wife stayed home and thats just the way it was. That was the female role.

Nowadays, its complicated, a "stay at home mom", to most of society, seems to carry little in terms of respect.

You have to get out there and run up the corporate ladder, find a job in a male dominated trade, become a lawyer or a doctor. All these roles carry an automatic level of prestige and respect.

Stay at home mom or dad just goes against the grain.

So, when I meet someone who truly has decided to stay home and raise their own children, they are the ones that are heros in my eyes, because I know they have looked at the big picture, they have shunned societies pressure to "make something of yourself" or keep a level of financial status in hopes of raising a decent human being. They have made the ultimate sacrifice. Make no mistake, it is sacrifice, you give up your freedom, your individuality and the time you could spend on yourself is few and far between.

I recognize how tough it is for a stay at home parent to re-enter the work force. Things change swiftly in a global economy and technology even swifter. After years at home it can be a hard sell to put yourself back in the game. I am not as courageous as those, I kept my foot in the door, so to speak and I feel guilty because of it. I think I will always regret not staying home full time. Hind site is 20/20 and the 4 or 5 years before they go to school really flys by. I truly missed out.
With any sacrifice there is usually reward as the end result. It is that sacrifice I admire and it warms my heart.
So hats off to those Moms and Dads who have made the choice to stay at home. Its the right thing to do in my mind.

JC Masterson, Silent River Kung Fu, Alberta, Canada