Focus with Heart

I spend a lot of time trying to develop focus. Working on focus. Enough focus and I should be successful at my goal.

What I have come to realize ….its not enough to have 100% focus, speaking for myself. I can stare at something and empty my mind and kick out all the distractions but I find myself needing something more.

Purpose.

Why ?

Visualize.

How?

The beginning..as it happens…and how it should end.

You could call all of that focus but I break it down and come up with focus with heart.

Where this is useful for me is applying this to something where I have a mental block, a barrier or a fear of.

 Board breaking and demonstrations both have the same focus issue for me.

I can have a mountain of focus but if my heart is not in it…nothing spectacular happens.

Obviously, last week’s demo has made me turn attention to my focus, or lack of focus that occurs from time to time. Last week’s demo served to be a great purpose as I looked upon the faces of the people in the Seniors home. It warmed my heart, and there it was … heart.

 A special thanks to Sifu Kichko for arranging the demo at the Seniors home and giving me 28 seconds of purpose!

Blog Challenge #2 -Thankful

I am grateful for my health.

Not to be confused with fitness or shape  but simply a fully functional body.

Not to be confused with an ailment free body.

Not to be  confused with aging aches or limitations that can be overcome.

I am not dependent on medications.

I am not dependent on caregivers.

I am not bedridden.

For this I am grateful and  thankful.

I will help those around me who are bedridden, dependent and have daily limitations to deal with.

I will help to restore dignity.

I will help to restore independence.

I will help to fend off loneliness as the rest of the world seems to pass by without you.

For one day, I may not have my health. ..and if that day comes I can only hope the goodwill is returned.

Blog Challenge

Blog Challenge from Sifu Wonsiak

Narrative on one Basic requirement and one Personal  requirement

Sparring requirement – this requirement is way off from reaching the 1000 mark for the year. Its unfortunate because even from the numbers I did accumulate  I noticed a difference in my approach from the beginning of the year. The more often you are on the mat to spar, the more familiar you are with the situation. The more familiar you are, the more comfortable you get. When you are comfortable in your surroundings that’s when the magic begins. You recognize and react better. You find time to try new things. I love sparring even though I am far from proficient at it. This years I Ho Chuan program has shown me the math. Mat time is proportional to your comfort level. Comfortable = Improvement. It s not a difficult concept but sometimes the obvious is overlooked.

 

Personal requirement – one of my goals was to encourage the female students to embrace the grappling skills from a self-defence perspective. My plan was to try and get the message across through classes and the boot camp seminars.  You see, from a female point of view being pinned on the ground is your worst nightmare. I have focused on grappling this past year to build the basics of escaping and fending off an attack from the ground. I am not sure that I was so successful in spreading my passion, my point of view and my opinion of the importance of the grappling techniques but something else interesting is happening instead. I am starting to recognize the commonalities between stand-up techniques, ground techniques and everything in between.  It’s the body mechanics that are essential no matter what name you put on the technique or martial art you are training in. Its made me realize how connected the martial arts community is or at least should be.

 No matter, the discipline, the fundamentals will always be the same. The human body is the human body and all human bodies move and react the same way, more or less…(there are those gifted rubber people).

I guess what started off as trying something new has in actual fact made me revisit lessons taught to me back in 1999 (that’s not a song, its when I was a white belt).  

So both of these requirements will no longer be requirements when my I Ho Chuan time is up but both will be permanent and valuable components to my ongoing training.

My Auntie

A spent last night visiting with my Auntie.

She passed away this morning at 7am.

I have been in denial for months about her condition. I have been angry for months about her condition. Reality was harsh last night when I had to face the end of such a lovely woman’s life.  My Auntie is the most giving person I know, she did not pursue a career, master any hobby but her life was about giving. To children,… always about children, her own, her grandchildren, neighborhood children,.. she  treated them all, including me, like her own. My fondest childhood memories include her and my Uncle. My Aunties life career was Children.

So why, I ask ,take her.

 I sit here now reflecting on her life and her influence she had on me.

Of course, it was her quality of life I need to reflect on. She touched so many people, especially the young with her example of giving and caring and just simply taking care of you.The more she gave the more extraordinary she grew.  She has placed a little piece of that in all her family and friends.

I am sad today, but I am so thankful to have known her and so grateful to be her niece.